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9.5k votes, 1.5k comments. My husband(42M) has a boy's night out with his friends every Friday and Saturday, going to the local pub and usually just …
AITA for showing up where my husband was supposed to be?
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AITA for showing up where my husband was supposed to be?
My husband(42M) has a boy's night out with his friends every Friday and Saturday, going to the local pub and usually just chats and plays darts with his friends or something, I(35F) don't know the specifics of their hangout as I don't really pry into that, nor does he really talk about it to me. I'm usually left in charge to take care of the kids on those days, which can be tiring as they're quite young and don't quite listen at times.
I've asked him to maybe reduce his boy's night out to just Saturday or just the weekend in general (We aren't religious), but he hasn't been quite receptive to it, saying that I'm being controlling, clingy, and etc, so I just decided to leave it at that as whenever I try bringing it up, he just gets all defensive and accusing, it just gets tiring to deal with.
This happened around two weeks ago, but on Saturday, our daughter fell ill and the medicine I had at the time wasn't helping, so I had to drive to a emergency care and called him to come up so he could check on his daughter as he's her favorite parent. He wasn't answering, and all my calls went into voice mail, and I'm gonna admit, I was seriously pissed off.
I called him around fifteen times or more If I remembered correctly, and once we finally got out of emergency care, which took a while due to there being tons of families there so the waiting was long. When we got home, I asked one of my neighbors that I knew well to watch my kids and drove to the pub that he usually visited with his friends for his night out.
Well, when I entered the pub, he wasn't there along with any of his buddies, so I was confused. I tried asking the bartender if he had seen my husband or just.. any of his friends, but he said no, and just looked as confused as me, and so I just left.
He came home a couple hours later, and I questioned him about his location and he just refused to answer and kept saying he was there, and that I was just blind, and started questioning me why I was there in the first place, accusing me of being a controlling witch, etc. I asked him why he didn't answer his phone, and he just said his phone was dead and he didn't have a charger then just stormed off to our room.
Now, he's been silent around me and refusing to talk to me unless I keep pestering him, and now I'm starting to feel like TA as I think what I did was kinda controlling and I don't want it to seem like I'm doubting him or think he's untrustworthy, but at the same time.. he didn't answer my calls at all and just brushed it off.
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Vote level 1 FoolMe1nceShameOnU · 15 hr. ago 2
Professor Emeritass NTA, but why on earth are you still married to this man who treats you like dirt?
"I don't want it to seem like I'm doubting him or think he's untrustworthy."
I mean, you know for a fact that he lied to you about his whereabouts (and probably has been all along, given how confused the bartender looked) and so clearly he IS untrustworthy, so why would you care if he thinks that?
I will never understand the women on this sub who are perpetually like, "My husband lied to me, called me horrible names, and generally treats me like some sort of disgusting thing stuck to the bottom of his shoe, and when I tentatively ask him about it he tells me that I'm trying to control him. I really feel AWFUL that I seem to have hurt his tender feelings and upset him by suggesting that perhaps he might, I don't know . . . NOT lie to me, call me names, or treat me like garbage. Clearly I'm an AH, right?"You're NTA, but dear God, woman, have some self-respect. Your husband is likely cheating on you, and even if he's not, he's certainly not telling you the truth about where he's going or who he's going with, and he doesn't even really care if you figure it out. He's rude to you, calls you names, and expects to do whatever he wants while he ditches you at home every weekend to watch the kids by yourself. What TF kind of a marriage is this? When do you get to have fun? When does he watch the kids? Why are you even with someone who treats you so shabbily?
Mixed Race Woman With Awful White In
A woman reveals in an AITA Reddit post that she's usually excluded from family dinners from her in-laws when no one else's significant others are.
Mixed Race Woman’s White In-Laws Exclude Her From Family Dinners, Husband Doesn’t See the Problem
Mixed Race Woman’s White In-Laws Exclude Her From Family Dinners, Husband Doesn’t See the Problem Dump him.
By Briana LawrenceMar 31st, 2022, 5:10 pm
AITA posts can be an unintentional source of entertainment with stories that get so bizarre that you question whether or not they’re real. However, every now and then, you run across a story that’s legitimately upsetting. You hope to the Reddit powers that be that it’s an over-exaggeration, but you know in your heart of hearts that it’s true because you’ve either witnessed or personally experienced similar situations.
Such is the case with this particular post where a mixed-race woman wonders if she’s the asshole for, um, eating at the same restaurant as her white husband and his family. We don’t find out the racial situation until the commenters come out and ask, suspecting that there’s more to the story. It all makes sense when she reveals that she’s half Black, half white, and her husband and in-laws are white. However, the truly heartbreaking moment is when she says, and I quote, “But I don’t know that that’s why they act cold toward me.”
Oh, honey, I just… come here. Let me hug you.
All significant others are invited… except for her
Going into an AITA post, the reason why someone is being excluded from family get-togethers can lead to some wild discoveries. As I read this post, I waited for some kind of quirky reveal that would explain why this wife was being excluded, but the moment never came. In hindsight, I probably should’ve known when the OP said, “I want to start this off by saying that he really is a good guy in other areas.” Yeah. That’s what you lead with when you know you’re about to say something that makes us go:
My husband’s parents, his 2 brothers (ages 38 and 40ish), and his brothers’ girlfriends/fiancées have a tradition of going out to dinner once a month. I am invited about 50% of the time. I’ve talked to my husband’s brother’s fiancée, and she says she is invited every time.
When I say I’m not invited, I mean that my husband tells me “I’m going to the family dinner. It’s probably best if you sit this one out.” When I expressed that I wanted to come, he told me that it would be for the best if I didn’t. It has caused several fights.
I waited to get some kind of, well, reason as to why she wasn’t being invited when everyone else was being included each time. Maybe she and her mother-in-law had some kind of weird tension? We never get an answer, at least, not in the original post.
Fed up with the constant exclusion, she decides to book a reservation at the same restaurant so she could eat there at the same time. Real talk, that’s an impressive as hell power move. “I ended up seated at a table where I couldn’t see his family. So I got up as if I was going to the bathroom and walked right past them.” She goes on to say, “My husband looked completely shocked and asked me what I was doing there. I told him that I had just been dying for a steak, so I came and got one at the restaurant.”
“My mother-in-law said it was very rude of me to interrupt their family dinner. I pointed out that I wasn’t trying to join them, I was just going to the bathroom. I told them to have a good meal and I left. I went and finished my steak by myself.” I obviously don’t know who this woman is, but I would like to be her friend. When I grow up, I wish to exude this much fuck you energy.
Her husband, however, doesn’t agree with me.
Her husband’s terrible response
“My husband was really pissed when he came home, and he told me that he couldn’t believe how much of an asshole I had been. I said that he was an asshole for not inviting me to his dinners when his brothers’ SOs got to go. My husband said that the decision to invite was between him and his family, and I should respect it.”
This is already terrible before we get the reveal about everyone’s race. If your family is cool with inviting everyone else’s spouses, wouldn’t you be bothered if yours was being left out? I guess not, in this case, since this woman’s husband discussed the situation with his family, decided that NOT inviting his wife would be best, and told her to respect the decision. Naturally, this woman is going to wonder WHY they don’t want her around when everyone else is being included.
My question is, since she’s apparently invited half of the time, what are they doing and/or saying when she’s not around? What is her husband allowing them to say about his wife, and what is he, himself, saying when he’s with them? As terrible as his family is, I’m angrier at him for not having his wife’s back about this, especially when she reveals that everyone is white except for her.
Here’s the thing. As someone in an interracial relationship, no one wants to think that race is the reason why their in-laws are being sour toward them. Racism is already a hard enough thing to face in the world, no one wants to think that they have to deal with it within a familial space. Part of me thinks that she could very well be aware of the discrimination that’s happening, but she’s trying her best to deny it because it’s an extremely hard truth pill to swallow, especially when she has a husband who gets mad if she doesn’t “sit this one out.”
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Mom Bans Her Estranged Father And His Wife From Seeing Her Kids Due To Their Past Infidelity. But some parents may need a lesson in boundaries and understanding. by Eric Spring. com Operational. She asked Reddit ’s “ Am I the A******? (AITA) ” forum for advice. It was her choice to carry 4 children and give birth to them. I know my mom well enough that I know when she's lying most of the time. A few days ago we went to a before prom Feb 05, 2022 · Today's issue centers around a woman who recently moved into a new house with her husband, and her mother-in-law who decided to decorate with photos of her husband's ex. The mom-of-four took to Reddit 's Am I The A**hole forum to ask Jan 30, 2020 · The father of said baby is the sister’s fiancé, in case you were wondering if this could get way worse. And use regular coconut milk!! The low fat isn't as good imo. A few days ago we went to a before prom She asked Reddit’s “Relationship Advice” forum to weigh in. Your dad and brother suck for making continued barbs to you and not respecting your decision. "You need to discuss the $15K with your stepdad, your mother, and a lawyer. ago. Desktop Web Operational. A post in Reddit’s ‘ Am I The Asshole ‘ subreddit is getting a lot of commentary — a mom is asking if she’s the “asshole” for not inviting a student with special needs to her daughter’s birthday party. The bride-to-be received her mother-in-law’s (MIL’s) old wedding dress as a gift. by Ben Acosta. When she tells her family her Dad's starts making misogynistic comments and op calls Dad out and tells Mom she must have no self-respect to marry Dad. “This was taken into consideration during our custody case, and her father now has to pay 70% of the She shared what happened on Reddit’s “Am I the A*****? (AITA)” forum. Some people feel ashamed, and others see it as a safe place. 99. Help! First of all for everyone saying that it is not my business ; I know and I feel really bad! So for context ; my mom is a 42 yo female and I’m a 16 yo female. Surprise, surprise, she gets pregnant. 97 % uptime. Then their teacher accused them of cheating.