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    r/AmItheAsshole • u/deliveryroomaita • 2d ago • 1 1 1 2 2 2

    AITA For picking my mom to be in the delivery room while I give birth and not my husband Asshole

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    u/Calm_Initial Asshole Aficionado [19] 2d ago edited 1d ago

    So does he need to work all the extra hours to make money because you aren’t? Or can he freely take time off to go to appointments and such?

    Both statements cannot be true.

    Editing to add that YTA - especially since you haven’t answered me, which means you likely know you are wrong.

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    u/OldManSpeed 2d ago

    It sounds like he has a realistic understanding of how much kids cost, and wants to work his ass off to squirrel away enough money in case of emergency. OP, meanwhile, thinks "everything will just work out." She thinks he can take time off but he (rightly) feels he cannot.

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    u/gdddg Colo-rectal Surgeon [36] 2d ago

    Not just kids but, if this is the US, literally the birth itself.

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    u/QuinnBC Partassipant [1] 2d ago

    Exactly, if there are ANY complications and they have to stay in the hospital for just a couple of days that could be thousands of dollars.

    393 u/Arrasor 2d ago

    My cousin birth costed her family $13k, no complications and stay only 1 day at hospital. This is just the bill I got to look at, there is at least one another bill from the anesthesiologist but I didn't get a look.

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    u/Impressive_Brain6436 Partassipant [4] 1d ago

    I'm really shocked right now! I mean, I knew that US health insurance sucks but this is ridiculous. $13k only for the birth and not even previous doctor's appointments?

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    u/Abigail_Normal 1d ago

    Hospitals in the US charge like crazy for everything. They even charge for skin-to-skin contact of your new born. They're making bank off of you holding your own child.

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    u/Impressive_Brain6436 Partassipant [4] 1d ago

    This sounds criminal to be honest. I'm glad I didn't have to pay a dime for anything regarding pregnancy and birth.

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    u/Abigail_Normal 1d ago

    It absolutely should be. What's worse is they don't give you an itemized bill unless you ask for one, and even then it can be a pain in the ass to actually get one. Which means you don't know what exactly they're charging you for, and they do everything in their power to keep it that way.

    → More replies 82 u/solveig82 1d ago

    It is criminal, the rich and corporations are squeezing people to death in the US

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    u/Ordinary-Raccoon-354 1d ago

    Agreed. As someone who lives in the US, anytime I get sick or injured I have to seriously consider the financial ramifications of getting medical help. Usually I end up choosing to not get treatment because it’s too unaffordable and I don’t want debt. Something seriously needs to be done about it.

    → More replies → More replies → More replies 69 u/Mamto2 1d ago

    I’m so glad we have the NHS

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    u/ImStealingTheTowels Partassipant [3] 1d ago

    It really is an incredible system full of outstanding people.

    Shame our current government is trying its level best to destroy it, though.

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    u/JesusSufferingFeck 1d ago

    All conservative governments try to destroy it, it is heartbreaking, but the Cons want private insurance to prevail. This is why I never understood anyone with less than 100k in SAVINGS voting conservative in any country.

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    u/Suspiciouscupcake23 1d ago

    Yeah with good insurance my first cost $10k. Realized later that when the hospital was acting surprised I didn't want to stay through another meal that that meal would have cost me like $200.

    → More replies → More replies 573 u/lemmful 1d ago

    My baby was born 5 weeks early, life flighted to a NICU, and was there for three weeks. Our total bill between everything was about $110k. Thankfully we hit our out-of-pocket maximum at about $9k. Yay for American health insurance.

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    u/Happycatlady1982 1d ago

    Omg I can't believe the costs, so glad I live in the UK, it's shocking.

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    u/Hello_Bardoit 1d ago

    I paid £4.50 for parking at my last antenatal appointment and thought that was extortion. How wrong I was.

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    u/Happycatlady1982 1d ago

    Even parking is still free in Wales ☺️ x

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    u/Hello_Bardoit 1d ago

    You guys have it so good!

    → More replies 89 u/Kamahr 1d ago

    I scored a parking ticket at an antenatal appointment… $134 AUD. Thank god for free healthcare.

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    u/Ecstatic_Long_3558 1d ago

    My husband stayed with me and our baby in NICU for a week at the cost of 50 dollars. For his bed. My care and the babys care was free. Love Scandinavian taxes 🙂

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    u/SuccotashSimple 1d ago

    Me too. Long live the NHS

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    u/SuccotashSimple 1d ago

    How the hell do people pay for that. Are you going to be in dept for the rest of your life

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    u/MungoJennie 1d ago

    Pretty much 135

    u/whatwhatoldchap 1d ago

    So many people die slow painful deaths because they can't afford treatment. They have one of the highest rates of death in childbirth too, of any developed nation. I wonder how many were women giving birth outside hospitals. People who are conscious after accidents yell for people not to call an ambulance... it's so fucked up.

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    Vote level 1 Calm_Initial · 2 days ago · edited 2 days ago

    Asshole Aficionado [19]

    So does he need to work all the extra hours to make money because you aren’t? Or can he freely take time off to go to appointments and such?

    Both statements cannot be true.

    Editing to add that YTA - especially since you haven’t answered me, which means you likely know you are wrong.

    11.4k level 2 OldManSpeed · 2 days ago

    It sounds like he has a realistic understanding of how much kids cost, and wants to work his ass off to squirrel away enough money in case of emergency. OP, meanwhile, thinks "everything will just work out." She thinks he can take time off but he (rightly) feels he cannot.

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    level 2 CrazyMath2022 · 2 days ago

    Exactly! OP talks that her husband works 14 hours to keep them float financially and then telling him he can't be in delivery room bcs he never takes her doctor or appointments, what should guy do? Clone himself!??

    And then she completely dismissed his feelings!

    I know you are pregnant OP but this is your partner who is doing all right thing for his family not some deadbeat husband and he has right to feel hurt bcs you kicked him from delivery and than tell him he has no right to his feelings! As mother of 2 kids I think in this situation OP YTA!

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    level 2 EinsTwo · 2 days ago

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    OP: He's working tons of hours because we need the money. But my mom who is retired has lots of time to come to my doctor's visits, so she should be at the birth.

    Good. Grief. Who gives a flying fuck who went to the doctor's appointments?

    You could be in the hospital FOR DAYS. Your decision is keeping your baby from his father for the first few days if his life!

    I hope and pray you are a troll, u/deliveryroomaita, just out to prove whether this sub will dver side against a woman. Because this post is AWFUL.

    Signed, a mom of 2 2.2k

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    level 2 mind_your_s · 2 days ago

    I think it might be that he still has PTO days left that he hasn't taken? Maybe she wanted him to use those to accompany her? 🤷🏾‍♀️

    But even then he's probably need those for when the baby gets here. Maybe he wanted to save them up for paternity leave?🤔

    5 level 2 numbersthen0987431 · 2 days ago YTA.

    So much this!!! She isn't able to work and so he has to work extra hours to pay for everything, and now she's punishing him for not being there for all the doctor/baby appointments. Because he has to work extra shifts to cover her lack of income.

    She's "making the decision, and it's final" because of her comfort, but she is completely steam rolling over his feelings because she can.

    I told him he's acting like a baby about this and he needs to realize that his feelings aren't the most important thing here.

    This statement is the biggest thing that makes it an YTA moment. Yes, OP's feelings are valid, and her comfort is important in the delivery room. HOWEVER, he is allowed to feel hurt and upset about the decision. He may mentally understand where she's coming from, but he is still allowed to be hurt/upset/sad that he's working double shifts to pay for everything and STILL not be allowed to be apart of it.

    OP is basically telling her husband that working extra shifts to pay for everything is "never going to be enough" for her.

    5 31 more replies level 1 LikesBigGlasses430 · 2 days ago

    He works 14 hours a day and comes home to such an ASSHOLE??? Poor fella

    YTA ALL THE WAY 64 level 1 Greejj · 2 days ago

    You’re crying because he isn’t sleeping in bed with you, yet you’re mad that he’s upset you won’t let him be in the room when your kid is born… We’ll dumb it down just a little more for you, you’re upset he’s not there for you even though you don’t want him to be there for you. Get your head out of your ass. You’re absolutely the asshole here.

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    A surrogate took to Reddit’s AITA forum to share her frustration involving her clients and the delivery room. The plan had always been for her to give birth with the couple and her husband in the room.

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    Reddit users rallied around to let her know that this was absolutely her choice.

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